Little Pink Houses

I’m sitting here at chemo with Xavier.  Once again the nurse was able to get blood return from my port so my arm was spared.  Thank God for small miracles.  The neuropathy continues to be a problem.  I can’t sleep.  The numbness, tingling, and pain continue to keep me awake, as do the non-stop thoughts that run through my mind.  Unisom doesn’t help at all.  My right breast continues to fill up with fluid.  I see Dr. W on Friday, if not sooner.  He will probably remove about 100 cc’s this time.

I got some nice news yesterday.  Back in April I saw an article in a magazine that mentioned a website that caters to breast cancer patients/survivors.  The website is breastcancerfreebies.com. This website is exactly what it sounds like, a place where people affected by breast cancer can find freebies such as wigs, mammograms, scholarships, lymphedema sleeves, retreats, and financial assistance.  I found a retreat that I thought looked interesting: little pink houses of hope.

  • Little Pink Houses provides FREE week-long beach retreats in private homes in North and South Carolina for breast cancer patients and their immediate families. The aim is to promote recovery and reconnection in a relaxing environment. Meals are served in a common area with other families. Activities include fishing, yoga and parasailing. Babysitting is provided so parents can have a date night. Click Here, or call 336-213-4733.

I applied for one of the retreats that same day.  I then forgot about it until a week or so ago.  I figured if we had been accepted, we would have been notified in early June.  Well, yesterday, I received a call and the woman informed me that my family had been accepted.  I guess we were on the wait list.  One of the families that had been accepted had to cancel.  We will be going to Emerald Isle, NC for a week this summer.  I am excited.  We could definitely use the break.  According to the woman I spoke with, all of the families get their own houses for the week.  The house is stocked with breakfast food and some snacks.  Lunch and dinner is usually with the other families.  There are also activities that the families do together. It will be nice to be with people who are going through the same things that you are.  In past retreats, the activities included kayaking, sailing, fishing, hang gliding, golf, stand up paddle boarding, massages, etc.  It looks like a lot of fun.  The only expense to the families is the cost of getting to the location.  We will probably drive down to North Carolina and maybe visit some family on the way.

This morning I did 35 minutes on my stationary bike (the Tour de France model).  I did a part of stage 2.  I didn’t have time to finish the stage because I had to get to my appointment.  I think I’ve only ever done Stage 1, Stage 2, and Stage 3 (not at one sitting, my butt would be hamburger).  In one of my last posts I joked that steroids aren’t included but I realized later that I do take steroids.  Every week.  Unfortunately they are the kind that PLUMP YOU UP.  They don’t PUMP YOU UP.  When all this is done, I’d love to get rid of the spare tire that has been developing in my stomach area.  Damn you steroids.  I always had some junk in the trunk but my stomach was always pretty flat, even after 3 kids.

Just finished up with chemo.  The needle has been removed.  We are heading home.  Later!

PS- Family-  that date that I mentioned as a possible going away party for Chris, it isn’t going to happen.  We will be heading home from North Carolina.

It’s not all brown and white

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I know this has absolutely nothing to do with my cancer and chemo story but since I also discuss my family in this blog, I had to comment on the Cheerios commercial with the interracial couple (and the very adorable little girl).  Apparently there has been backlash against this commercial.  Really? It’s 2013.  When will things change?

I remember when I was dating my husband over 22 years ago and the negative comments that we received from both white people and Hispanics (never our families though).   Some people (white) would give me advice that included telling me that “all Puerto Rican men cheat on their women” and other stereotypical nonsense like that.  Hispanic women would confront my husband and ask if Hispanic women weren’t good enough for him and why was he seeing a white girl.

When my children were young and I was out alone with them, I got a lot of stares.  People asked if my children were mine?????  Yes, I gave birth to the three of them.  No, they don’t look much like me (not a green eyed, fair skinned one in the bunch), but they are a part of me and I love them.  About a year ago, I was out with my daughter (who is now 15) and a woman approached us, stated that my daughter was beautiful and she had beautiful hair (I agree) and then asked if Gillian was my daughter.  Can’t you see the resemblance?  LOL.  She may not look like me, but she is very much like me.

When Xavier was a young child , he came home from school and asked me what color he was.  Instead of answering, I asked what color he thought he was.  Xavier answered by saying that he was “pancake colored” and that was and still is the perfect answer. It’s not all brown and white!  I couldn’t have come up with anything better.

My son Christian is dating a girl who is also mixed race.  It’s great to see.  Every time I see an interracial couple, I smile. I always thought that the easiest way to end racism was for more interracial couples to marry and have beautiful mixed race children who would hopefully love all of their parts and not be taught to hate any part of themselves.  My husband and I taught our children to love themselves and not to judge others based on what is outside but what is inside and based on their wide circle of friends, I think they’ve learned well.

I have just one more comment on the Cheerios commercial.  It would have been nice to have seen “mom and dad” together in the commercial.  Or can the majority of America not handle that?

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Pomp and circumstance

I went to a family reunion last Saturday.  It was nice seeing everybody but by 5 pm, I was exhausted.  I can do without the fatigue.  It makes me feel less than normal.

Sunday I did the readings  at the 10:30 mass.  Even though my hair is growing in, I wore a fedora.  Charles recommended that I dye my hair to cover the gray as I’ve been unhappy about my appearance  (one breast, an extra 20 pounds, etc) and I was unhappy with the result.  You would think it would be easy to dye very short hair.  Not! I felt like I was coloring my scalp instead of my hair, so some spots were missed.  I probably should have gone with dark brown but decided to go for auburn.  Hey, it’s something different.  By Thursday, my hair was looking halfway decent, so the hat came off.  Also, it was too damn hot for a hat.  By Friday, I was liking the color.

Monday was spent cleaning the house.  It definitely looks much nicer when it’s clean.

I had chemo on Tuesday.  Xavier brought me.  Charles was working on some things at home.  It went OK.  The nurse was able to get blood from my port.  I took a deep breath and held it! Hopefully that trick will work again next week. I appreciate not having to have my left arm poked for blood draws.  The whole ordeal took around 4 hours and change.  Xavier and I just hung out together and played video games/read on our respective electronic devices.  I was queasy for a couple of days after.

On Thursday, I saw the Police Department surgeon.  I see him again on July 25th.  He is anxious to get me back to work.  Hopefully chemo will be done on July 16th and I will go back to work (light duty).  I have time built up so I will probably start working just a few days a week and build myself up.  Eventually I will have to go for additional surgery, but I don’t want to consider surgery until after we go on vacation in August.  I’d like to have a nice time away & not spend my time recuperating from yet another surgery.  I need a break (as does the rest of the family).

On Friday, I took  a nice bike ride on a trail nearby.  I went from Chester to Goshen, where I stopped and picked up a bike helmet and some water and put some air in my front tire.  It was a gorgeous day.  I made it back to Chester, (my ass was killing me by then), and discovered that my front tire was flat.  Thank God I made it and I didn’t have to walk my bicycle back.  I then had to take my bike to another bike shop to get the flat fixed.  My body is still hurting from the ride.  Real bike riding is definitely different from riding a stationary bicycle (even one that inclines and declines so I can “ride” the Tour de France-Steroids Not included).  (See Dr. W, I didn’t involve my chest muscles in my workout… at least not that much, just every other part of my body).

Christian graduated today (now yesterday).  The weather was beautiful (though a bit hot).  We brought a canopy to the outside ceremony so we didn’t have to sit in the sun.  I was still exhausted by the time the graduation was done, probably due to a combination of my aching body and the heat.  We all then went out for lunch.  It was nice.  It will be sad when Christian leaves for school.  I vegged out when we got home.  I couldn’t sleep though.  Too achy.  We can’t do a graduation party yet so maybe we’ll have a going away party for him instead.

……Hours later……I’m exhausted and I can’t sleep!  Damn neuropathy in my right lower leg, foot, and toes (not to mention the pain and itching in my right shoulder and breast area and the pain under my fingernails).  And Damn you Taxotere! Your side affects are driving me nuts.  I just took an over the counter sleep medicine.  I hope it works.  Since I didn’t stay asleep, I stepped outside and took a look at “Super moon“.  It was definitely super.

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And so it goes…….

Ugh!  I’m feeling crappy. Son #2 gave me his cold.  I’ve been fighting it for over a week.  My sinuses are bugging me.  I was supposed to get chemo yesterday but it was a NO GO.  Blood tests revealed that my liver enzymes were high.  As per the doctor, this could have been caused from the cold virus I’ve been fighting.  Or, as Nurse G said, it could also have been caused from Tylenol.  She recommended I take Advil or any other non-acetaminophen containing pain reliever.  I hadn’t taken any Tylenol, but I had taken NyQuil Sinus.  When I came home, I checked the ingredients in NyQuil Sinus.  The first is acetaminophen.

I was really upset.  I am coming so close to the end of chemo and I just want to get it over with.  I don’t like when chemo is pushed.  It just prolongs the crap.  The appointment actually started out good.   Nurse G was able to get blood return from my port.  I only had to hold my breathe to the point of almost passing out for each tube she had to fill with blood!  But I didn’t have to get stuck in my arm for the first time in a couple weeks.

Since I had no chemo, I called Dr. W’s office to make an appointment.  More fluid was accumulating in my right breast.  He saw me about an hour after I called and removed another 55 cc’s of yellow tinged fluid.  I’m hoping my body will start absorbing the fluid instead of me having to see the doctor every week or so to have the fluid removed.    My scar still looks horrible, but Dr. W once again told me not to worry because he will be removing the scar at some point in the future.  I want to wait for my skin to heal some more before I have any more surgery.

I had an appointment with my oncologist, Dr. G last Thursday.  Dr. G wants me to do the complete course of chemo given my history and my bad luck (so I should have the two treatments I missed from month four when my breast got infected).  I told him that Dr. W had removed 50 cc’s of fluid the week prior.  Dr. G examined me and stated that Dr. W would probably have to remove 50 cc’s more.  (He was close).  I asked why my body wasn’t absorbing the fluid.  He told me that with all the surgeries and scar tissue I had, it isn’t surprising that the fluid wasn’t being absorbed.

I was so looking forward to being done and moving on with my life.  I was trying to plan Christian’s High School Graduation Party.  I planned on having the get together in July but with chemo pushed back, it was looking like August but he leaves for school on the 11th.  It looks like the party isn’t going to happen.  We’ll do something small instead.  I was also looking forward to getting back to work.  I miss all my friends and co-workers in the city.  I miss being productive.  I miss being ME!

Crew, Chemo, and Curls?

I’m sitting on my couch, feeling nauseous, having hot and cold flashes, my face tingling, watching Long Island Medium, and pondering life? after death.  I don’t ponder often but I definitely ponder enough.  I think that many people who face cancer do the same.  When you die do you really hang around and watch over your loved ones?  Is that heaven?  I guess it would be nice seeing how your family was doing, but bizarre because they are doing it without you.  Parts of the show are making me teary eyed.  Why do I torture myself?

I had a nice week without chemo (until today that is).

Two weeks ago Christian, Xavier, Gillian, and I went to the Police Self Support Group Dinner Dance.  Christian received a scholarship.  I had a nice time, though I was very tired.  It was the day after chemo, I went for acupuncture and I barely slept.  I have some great friends in the PSSG.  They help so many people.  I really need to get back to the meetings.  They’ve help me a lot.  I also meet with a group of women I met in a local church who all have or have had cancer.  The support I receive is wonderful.

PSSG Dinner

On the 28th, Charles and I went to Chris’ crew race.  The day was rainy and crappy but he was able to race.  His boat came in 2nd.  (I think it was the Orange/Ulster Championship.  On June 1st, Chris had his last crew race as a high school student.  It was a close race, but his boat came in 2nd.  We had a nice time.  It was a beautiful sunny day!

On the 30th, I went with Christian and Gillian to the HS awards night ceremony.  Gillian got the Geometry award and Christian got the Physics award (for having the highest average in these subjects).  I am so proud.  Gillian was shocked.  When I looked through the program and saw the various awards that were being given, I told her that she was getting the geometry award.  She stated that there were a bunch of people who were smarter then she was.  Apparently not in geometry!

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On the 31st, I saw Dr. W, my plastic surgeon.  I was still concerned about my scar but he told me that it is healing nicely.  He also stated that he would be removing the scar anyway, so I shouldn’t worry.  He also removed over 50 cc’s of clear, yellowish fluid.  I see him again in a month or sooner if I need more fluid removed.  I already have fluid accumulating and it hasn’t even been a week.  I’ll probably be back in another week or so.  I’m not sure when we will start the reconstruction again.  My skin needs to heal some more first.

I started working out a bit.  Charles finished fixing the basement and I have access to my stationary bike.  I used it for 3 days now.  My lungs weren’t liking it so much the first day.  I was doing a little better by day three.  Eventually I want to lose about 20 lbs. I didn’t work out today.  Chemo was a 5 hour affair again.  The nurse couldn’t get blood from my port again.  So we tried all the tricks again and none worked.  The nurse had to get blood from my right arm.  Not fun.  She had to dig around a bit to get blood. I HATE THAT! My blood work was fine as were my vitals (blood pressure, temperature, etc).

Yesterday and today, my allergies have been kicking my ass.  My eyes have been so itchy and my asthma has been bothering me a bit.  Claritin and Benadryl anyone?  Xavier took me to my appointment today.  It was nice spending time with my oldest child, even though we did our own thing.  He had his laptop and I had my Kindle but it was nice just having him around.  I miss him when he is away at school.  He bought me dinner after.  Not feeling it now though.  I feel like puking.  I took some meds.  They took the edge off but I still feel crappy.  I actually slept a bit during chemo.  The chemo room was so cold.  I wrapped myself up in blankets and put a bandanna on my head to keep warm.  A woman getting chemo asked where I got the great scarf.  I told her that my sister made it and showed it to her.  I also told her to check the American Cancer Society’s TLC website as they have lots of head scarves and bandannas.  Of course they won’t have the personal touch.   Evelyn, your work has been appreciated.

I haven’t been wearing anything much on my head lately because it has been too hot.  I’m also starting to let my hair grow in.  There are few thinning patches but they aren’t too bad.  I’ve also have a lot of gray.  Charles said I should color my hair because that might make me feel better, but I’m afraid the chemicals will make the little bit I have fall out.  I’ll wait another month or so.  I’m not sure what the texture will be like.  The first time I lost my hair from chemo, it came back dark and curly.  My eyelashes are thinning.  I’m not thrilled.

I’m starting to get tired but I don’t think I’ll get much sleep.  Still feeling crappy.  My left leg is tingling now as well as my face! Oh joy.  I can’t wait until all of this is done.  It’s been a long year and a half and despite my first paragraph, I don’t plan on going anywhere anytime soon.

I know this is not at all related but I was working on my garden this week (weeding).  Can someone explain how my beautiful orange gladioli and purple irises changed into white irises?  I had such beautiful colorful flowers and they seem to have disappeared.  The white irises are pretty but they lack color and I love colorful flowers.  Charles fixed the porch (the supporting beams for the overhang were rotting and he replaced them).  We bought a few rose bushes and other colorful bushes and placed them on the porch, near my hammock.  I bought a few flowers and tomato plants that I still need to transplant.  But what happened to my gladioli?

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Happy Birthday Evelyn!

A long few days………………

Last Friday I was up bright and early, 0500 hours, in order to see the Police Surgeon.  He asked when I was due to finish chemo (around 6 weeks) and asked if I’d be ready to be placed on limited duty at that time.  I said it depended on when I was getting my reconstructive surgery.  If I was getting the surgery soon after I finish chemo, then I couldn’t go right back to work.  If I have to wait a few months for my skin to heal, then I could go back to work (at least until surgery).  The Police Surgeon also went over the blood tests, pulmonary (lung) function test, and EKG I had done a week prior for the NYPD World Trade Center follow-up.  My bad cholesterol is a little high, though my good cholesterol is OK.  This change started after the chemo so hopefully it will get back to normal once I am finished.  My calcium levels were also slightly high.  This may also be chemo connected.  We will see.  My EKG was fine.  No problems with the ticker!  My Pulmonary Function test- Not so good, only 81%.  Normal is 100%.  I’ve got to get back to working out and singing.  Hopefully it doesn’t get any worse.  Everyone needs to breathe!  I guess the thrice daily Xopenex nebulizer and once daily Singulair aren’t doing the trick.

I had a lovely weekend with two of my sisters, the default sister and Liz.  We had nice dinners, did cool crossword puzzles (the family joules!!), great conversation (LOL), and bluegrass.  I also realized that reading glasses are in my near future.  I could do without the muscle cramps in my left calf, ankle, and foot, while lying in bed.  The pain was so bad, I was in tears.  That lasted 3 nights in a row!  On Sunday, I went to an afternoon wedding with Gillian and she wore the “Freshman Formal” dress (shake your booty baby).  I wore a nice purple dress with a silver shrug.  I tried to use the expander that Dr. W filled for me to even out my appearance, but the bra was uncomfortable & I could see the expander. I went to the wedding one-breasted.  Oh, and I wore the Chicago wig with long earrings.  About halfway through the reception, the wig came off and the cool hat went on.  I talked to a bunch of friends and had a good time. Everyone asked how I was feeling…….can you guess?  BUT I LOOK GOOD.  (I took it as a compliment).

On Monday I went to acupuncture.  I was stuck with even more needles than ever before.  I looked like a human pin cushion.  I picked up a black dress for Gillian for her chorus concert and an ice cream cake for Gillian’s 15th birthday, which was also Monday.  We sang Happy Birthday and ate cake.  Christian kept trying to steal everyone’s “crunchies”.  The kid is addicted.  I then spent a couple hours listing magazines for sale on Amazon, while watching Dancing With The Stars (Kelly and Derek’s freestyle dance was amazing!).   I still have a bunch of magazines and books to list.  We are cleaning house.  Getting rid of things we no longer need.  Our sons will both be in college in the fall and college isn’t cheap, neither is breast cancer.  I plan to donate some of the proceeds to breast cancer charities.    I also watched the news about the devastating tornado in Oklahoma and said a prayer for the victims.

Tuesday was tough.  I woke up early to go to the High School for the Scholar Athlete Breakfast. During breakfast I spoke with some of the other parents (I didn’t talk with my mouth full mom nor did I chew with my mouth open.  Mom, you taught me well).   The Crew Team along with a number of sports teams were recognized for the academic achievements of the athletes. On the way home, I stopped at the soon to be closed King’s Elementary School to vote for the school budget (higher taxes).  Then Charles and I headed to my chemo appointment.  (Xavier had to go to body shops to get estimates for one of our cars.  It was struck in a parking lot).  My appointment was for 11:45 and I showed up at 11:45 and checked in.   Dr. D hadn’t arrived yet so I waited.

At about 12 pm I was called in to the exam room by the nurse who took my vitals.  I then waited some more & checked my emails.  Dr. D came in, we started talking, and he received a phone call.  He apologized and stepped out of the exam room.  I played a couple games on my iPad and answered a few texts from Charles.  He was waiting in a chemo cubicle for me with some lunch.  Dr. D came back, examined me and checked my scar.  I am concerned.  On part of the scar, the edges don’t meet.  Dr. D wasn’t too concerned.  He feels the scar is healing from the inside out.  He gave me the OK for chemo and I headed to the chemo area.

I waited for what seemed like a while, eating the harvest grain and Portobello soup, Charles had bought for me.   A nurse came over and asked if the first nurse drew my bloods.  “No”.  She came over and accessed my port.  Flushed the port with saline, and ………………………………………………. she didn’t get blood return.  She hooked me up to a bag of saline and let it run for about 5 minutes, and……………………………. She didn’t get blood return.  She let the bag of saline run through the port for another 5 minutes…..NO BLOOD! She then had me lean over and practically touch my toes (I can), NO BLOOD.  I lay back on the recliner, coughed, and turned my head.  NO BLOOD.  We tried all the tricks and nothing happened.  So, she had to stick me in my left arm to get blood for the CBC. We had to see if my counts were high enough for chemo.  She actually found another vein in the crook of my elbow.  Hooray! She ran some heparin through the port.  The bloods were sent down to the lab.

Charles and I talked while we waited.  My daughter participates in Tae Kwon Do, and she takes dance.  TKD is a sport.  It’s in the Olympics.  Though she is a scholar and has been recognized as such, she isn’t considered a scholar athlete as TKD isn’t a school team or club.  It’s disappointing.  Maybe she can start a team!  We want her to try Crew next year, so she has more opportunities for college.  (On an aside, When I was at the wedding on Sunday, I spoke to a cousin I hadn’t seen in a while.  His teens are home schooled  but even though my cousin and his wife pay school taxes, his kids aren’t allowed to participate on their local high school sports teams.  I don’t think that is fair as part of the school taxes they pay support athletics.  Just my opinion!)

The labs work came back OK and the procession of IV bags began.  Steroids-15 minutes, Benadryl (we don’t want an allergic reaction)- 15 minutes, and Zantac- 15 minutes, and last but definitely not least…………the Taxotere– over two hours.  During the Benadryl/Zantac run, I fell asleep.  I was awakened so that the nurse could hook up the Taxotere.  I was sleeping on my side and she couldn’t easily make the change in the position I was in.  The heat and drugs were making me tired.  It was over 80 degrees outside and pretty damn hot inside.  The AC wasn’t working.  The nurses were offering the patients ice packs but with my luck, I’d start freezing, so I declined.   I drifted a bit during the Taxotere as well but after I while, I started having hot flashes and gave up on the sleep.  I played ChickCoop, and read for a bit.  When the bag of Taxotere was finally done and the needle removed.  It was 5 pm.  We had spent hours and 15 minutes at the chemo center.  It was my longest chemo of this course of treatment yet.  (I had been hospitalized for 3 days for each of the 6 cycles of chemo, the first time I was diagnosed with breast cancer).  I put my light purple All-Stars back on, went to the bathroom (again), and Charles & I headed home.

I didn’t stay home long though.  Gillian needed to be dropped off at 6:15 pm at the High School for the chorus concert.  Xavier drove.  We dropped Gillian off and headed to Café ala Mode for chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream (Xavier’s treat).  We headed back to the High School and watched a lovely concert.  The kids are so talented and the choir directors are great teachers.  The kids sang beautifully.

We drove home, I had some cereal, did the dishes, and watched most of the Dancing With the Stars finale.  As it is a chemo night, I am still a little wired though I will try to get some sleep soon.  Tomorrow is another day.  More human pin cushion time and more time to spend with the family and friends.  Though these last few days were long days, they were days I was able to spend with family and friends and watching my children grow and mature.  I am alive and plan to keep on living.  Each day spent with family and friends is a gift.

I love you guys!

Sleep is overrated!  I tried to sleep for a couple hours but couldn’t.  I came back downstairs at around 0420 hours.  I am drinking tea and editing this post.  I’ll try to sleep again in an hour or so.  Happy Birthday Bernard.  Happy Birthday not so little Chris.

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Chris at Scholar Athlete Ceremony

Mothers, kids, and chemo!

Once again I am trying to type this on my iPad during chemo, but the iPad keeps wigging out.  Sometimes the keypad works and sometimes not.  Xavier showed me how to use the “talk to type” but there is too much background noise and I am getting some crazy sentences!! Oh well…back to Candy Crush, Chickcoop (Damn it Jackie.  It’s all your fault. LOL), and Words With Friends.  I can’t get anything productive done.

I went down to the city and saw Dr. G last Thursday. He is my main medical oncologist.  (But first a stop at the precinct to see the new CO-but she was out & second, to stop at “Tea and Sympathy” to see my friends, Nicky and Sean, and for a delicious lunch…Scones with clotted cream, salad, and delicious iced tea. . I told Dr. G about the allergic reaction I had to the Taxotere last Monday.  He stated that I will have to get more steroid and Benadryl for future infusions.  He checked all my blood work and examined me.  He said everything looked good and we should keep on with the course of chemo.  My right shoulder, right elbow, and wrist are still hurting.  Apparently I have a lot of scar tissue under my arm.  It must be doing something to a nerve.  I have numbness in my middle finger.  I also have a pain in one spot in my back.  I’ve had it since the double mastectomy.  If you were to draw a line from my scar, around to my back, that’s where the pain would be.  This may also be nerve related.  Damn scar tissue and effected nerves! The pain in my elbow went away for a few days, but came back.  Ugh!

I was supposed to go up to Saratoga Springs for the weekend with Charles and Christian, so mom came up on Friday morning to watch Gillian, so we could head up to Saratoga by 1 or 2 pm.  Christian had a crew tournament, starting very early Saturday morning.  He rows in an 8 man boat.  This is Chris’ first season participating in crew.  He was already one of the faster members of the team.  (I’m so proud!)  However, Gillian had the “freshman formal” Friday night. She seemed a little down Thursday night because she didn’t like the dress she was originally going to wear, so Charles & I decided that  I would stay home and help Gillian get ready.  I had been helping her straighten her hair Thursday evening (a two-hour job at minimum).

Mom accompanied me to Dr. W’s Friday morning.  I arrived at his office wearing the cool hat/long earrings look.  Dr. W smirked and said, Nice Hat!”  I think the man likes busting my chops.  That’s OK, because I give as well as I get.  Dr. W removed the stitches and placed some steri-strips on the scar.  I am hoping the lovely scar doesn’t tear again.  I have been very good about not stretching the area too far.

cool hat/long earrings look

Mom and I went for a nice lunch at “Charlotte’s Tea Room” .  I love that place.  The staff is great.  (The day after my last surgery, they were closed for a private party though I didn’t know this, but they still put together a lunch for me when Charles went over there!) The scones are scrumptious.  Mom and I had the Mary’s grandmother’s secret recipe artichoke pie.  Delicious! Mom and I picked Gillian up from school & took Gillian to get a manicure and pedicure. One hour before she had to be at her friend Matt’s house, we were at “Style Counsel”  and I bought Gillian a dress (the 2nd one she tried on).  We came home, did some finishing touches on her hair and make-up, she got dressed and we left for Matt’s.  We took a couple of pictures and then followed Matt’s mom to the next house, where more pictures were taken.  I was glad that I stayed home with her.  She was very happy and told me so more than once.  (The dress definitely helped).  I was starting to get tired so mom and I headed back home.  I definitely did too much that day.  I put my feet up, iced up my chest, and relaxed.  Gillian got home after 10 pm.  She had a great time. (I knew she would). She said she danced the whole night.

The dressMom and GillianGillian and me

Mom stayed over Friday night.  I was going to go up to Saratoga on Saturday afternoon.   If Chris’ boat made the finals, he would race again on Sunday.  Charles called about 11 am.  Unfortunately Chris’ boat was disqualified for interference (not yielding to a boat that was overtaking them).  I felt really bad for him and his team.  They had been working hard all year for this big race and it ended prematurely.  From what Chris told me later (if this is wrong, I probably mis-remembered again),  that because there were so many boats, there were staggered starts.  There were 4 lanes on the lake, but the rowers were only using the two middle lanes.  If another boat was close behind, they were supposed to steer to one of the outer lanes.  The rowers on Chris’ team were never told to move so the boat coming from behind had to move to the outer lane to avoid a collision.  Because they were disqualified instead of excluded, the crew could not participate in any other races.  They were done for the weekend.  Christian’s team had only participated in one race prior to the NYS finals in Saratoga, because of poor weather and water conditions.  The one race they did participate in, his team came in second place.  Since the weather up in Saratoga Springs was absolutely shitty and Chris wasn’t going to be participating in any other races, Charles said he and Christian were going to leave Saratoga early on Sunday (we had booked the hotel for two nights).  They would be home for Mother’s Day.  Mom went home a couple hours later, after stopping at Gillian and Christian’s dancing school (North East Dance Movement), to pick up tickets to the recital.

Chris at Crew

Chris at Crew

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After I hung up the phone with Charles, I spent the next 15 minutes looking up the rules for US Rowing  (http://www.usrowing.org) .  I couldn’t find any information regarding who was supposed to move the boat in the situation aboe.  I did find Rule 2-204, Interference or Foul.  It states that the referee is supposed to instruct the offending boat to move, if it has left its own water.  The referee can also use a white flag.  I don’t know if any of this occurred.  I’ve got to talk to Chris again.

Mother’s Day was lovely.  Gillian made me different colored pancakes for breakfast.  I ate the pink and purple pancakes.  I gave Gillian the blue pancake, and Chris ate the yellowish pancake.  Christian bought me lovely flowers.  Gillian and I went to church (where we saw and congratulated her friend Shannon.  Her 4 person crew team came in second place in the novice category at the NYS Finals).  We picked up some flowers at the Mother’s Day plant sale and headed home.  Christian tried to explain the Saratoga fiasco.  He drew me a map of the course, while I worked on trying to get all my medical bills together so I can submit them in order to get money from my Healthcare Flexible Spending Account.  Charles and Christian made a delicious dinner of porterhouse steak, asparagus, corn on the cob, and potatoes.  Way too much food.  I couldn’t finish the steak & I didn’t eat a potato.  Lucky CJ…she got a bone!   I spent some time weeding my garden, but I could do only so much with my right arm bothering me  and dirt getting wedged under the nails of my left hand (and I still haven’t picked up gardening gloves)!

Flowers from Christian

Monday I went to acupuncture again.  I wore yoga pants this time.  So Dr. S put a bunch of needles in my legs in addition to the needles that she puts in my arm, ears, face, and the crapload she puts in my almost bald head.  I am very sensitive.  Every time she put a needle in my head, I got a tingly shock running down my spine.  She covered me with a silver “space” blanket and I relaxed to the soothing music. I then stopped at Kohl’s to return the blender I had purchased.  I discovered a crack in the blender on the day I bought it.  I’m back to using the juicer/blender combo for my smoothies.  It works, there is just more to clean.

On Tuesday I had lunch at my friend Jackie’s house.  I had a great time catching up.  It’s crazy.  We grew up together in Staten Island, both moved off the island and we live within a half hour of each other.  But life is so busy for both of us, that we haven’t seen each other in months.  It’s hard to find time when dealing with all the drama that surrounds a cancer diagnosis.  I see my doctors more than I see my family and friends.  Another of our friends was recently diagnosed with oral cancer.  I would love to go see her, but at this point in time, I can only text her, message her, and I referred  her to a friend who also had oral cancer.  I hope it helps.  When I got home, Charles and Xavier were back from Philadelphia.  It was good to see Xavier. We last saw him on Easter (just for the day).  Gillian and I also took CJ to the vet.  CJ had blood in her urine.  We thought she had a urinary tract infection, the vet agreed and gave us antibiotics to give to CJ.  CJ seems to be doing better.  She stopped peeing in the house (Thank God!)

Today (now yesterday), I had chemotherapy.  Xavier came with me.  The chemo went well.  Dr. D was on vacation so I was examined by Dr. P.  When I told him about my allergic reaction last week, he seemed concerned and was wary about giving me more Taxotere, even after I told him that the Benadryl worked well.  He suggested possibly switching with Abraxane.  I told him that Dr. G wasn’t too concerned when I told him about the allergic reaction, so I gave Dr. P, Dr. G’s cell phone number.  Dr. P left Dr. G a voicemail.  I texted Dr. G as well.  Dr. P went to see if they had any Abraxane on site.  I didn’t want my chemo to be delayed if we were going to go that route.  When he came back, he told me that Abraxane caused increased neuropathy.  Thanks, but No Thanks.  I’ve already got enough neuropathy.  Dr. P told me that he spoke with the nurses and he was more comfortable with the Taxotere.  I would be given the steroid infusion, then  the Benadryl infusion and then a Zantac infusion.  When all that was complete, I would be given the Taxotere over two hours instead of one.  I went back to the chemo area, grabbed a couple packs of Honey Maid Grahams, a Nature Valley granola bar, and a ginger ale, found a cubby and grabbed a recliner, kicked off my All Stars, and waited.  (I don’t know why this paragraph is now italicized and I tried fixing it without success).  
 
Xavier and me

Nurse G came in to the cubicle.  She is one of my favorites!  She got me prepped, and accessed my medi-port.  I tried to keep talking because last week, she was able to get blood from my port without a problem, when I excitedly told my surgery story.  It didn’t work so well this time.  She flushed my port with a few syringes of saline.  She then tried to get blood return.  She got a little blood & then it stopped.  She flushed my port with a few more syringes of saline.  She got blood return & then it stopped.  I went to the waiting room and got Xavier.  He had dropped me off and stopped at the mall to pick up a video game and get a haircut (the mall is very close to the infusion center).  She then tried the saline infusion route.  10 minutes of saline running through my port.  She she came back, she got blood return and was able to fill the vials for my blood tests……I waited for the blood test results.  She started running the steroid and Kytril infusion. Next up was the Benadryl,  followed by the Zantac.  I was then hooked up to the Taxotere.  With all this fluid running through me (along with the ginger ale, hot tea, and iced tea I was drinking), I must have hit the bathroom about five or six times! Xavier and I listened to some music, played some games (Chickcoop, Jackie), and talked.  He told me that he was going to take me to the rest of my chemo appointments to give Dad a break.  Isn’t he wonderful.  I love my kids.  I guess Charles and I did something right. Approximately two hours after the Taxotere started, I was done.  A nurse (not G) came and removed my port, I went to the bathroom..again, then Xavier and I left to head home.

We were going to go from chemo to Greenwood Lake for Christian’s crew race.  But, guess what…..it was canceled because the water was too choppy!  Poor kid can’t catch a break.  Christian wants to take up crew when he goes to SUNY-Maritime and we are hoping that he will have some good showings in some races.  I think his team only has two races left for the season.

Gillian and Christian went to Hip Hop dance class, Gillian taught Tae Kwon Do for an hour as well (NorthEastern Martial Arts),  I did some reading, Xavier went food shopping, Charles and I watched the second episode of the first season of “Dexter” (Hi David!), Gillian and Christian went to bed, Charles went to bed, I worked on this blog (I have a very hard time sleeping on chemo days), Xavier went to bed, and now I am going to try to sleep.  I have to be up in about 1 1/2 hours  because I have to see the Police Department doctor at 7 am.  (I feel like I live at doctor’s offices).

Goodnight!

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Correction on prior post

My friend Lynda informed me that the quote “It’s better to look good then to feel good” was actually Billy Crystal as “Fernando” from the Saturday Night Live Skit “Fernando’s Hideaway”  and was based on Fernando Lamas.  It had nothing to do with Ricardo Montalban.  I mis-remembered.  Damn chemo brain!!!!!  I stand corrected.  Thanks Lynda!

How are you doing? ….Well you look good!

The drain was removed last Wednesday.  I was laying in the exam room & Dr. W told me to take a deep breathe and another & Fu*k, it hurt when he pulled the drain out of my breast.  He covered the little hole in my side with a band-aid.  I didn’t realize until later that some blood leaked out onto my shirt.  Oh well..just had to pre-treat and the blood came out.  I spoke to the doctor about the different  reconstruction options.  I’ll probably use my own tissue for reconstruction instead of going with an implant, especially after reading that implants aren’t recommended for radiated skin.

I saw Dr. W again yesterday morning because my scar was looking a little red and I noticed fluid under my skin.  Dr. W took a syringe and removed about 25 cc’s of fluid.  I see him this Friday to get the stitches removed.  It seems like a little more fluid has settled under my skin.  The doc thinks the redness was just from the stitches.

My right breast (or lack thereof) looks bizarre.  I still have stitches.  My chest looks sunken and deformed now.  I don’t know if the appearance will get any better.  I will be without a right breast for a minimum of 4 months, probably longer.  It’s weird.  I don’t really like wearing wigs as they are hot, itchy, and I feel that they don’t look natural.  But since I got the tissue expander removed and I am now lopsided, I am wearing my wigs more often.  When it appeared that I still had two breasts, I didn’t mind being bald. I could pretend that everything was OK.  Now, if I don’t wear a jacket (and it’s starting to get warmer), anyone can see that everything is not OK.

sunken chest (pirate's dream)

Prior to my latest surgery, I had a woman ask me why I shaved my head.  She also noted that my daughter had shaved the side of her head.   She thought it was something that we just decided to do as a fashion statement.  She had no idea I was being treated for breast cancer because I didn’t look like I had cancer.  (Though I’m not sure what a cancer patient is supposed to look like). As for my daughter and her “undercut”, my son Xavier and his fraternity brothers from Sigma Alpha Mu, held a fund raiser where they shaved their heads in public to raise money for the American Cancer Society and for Breast Cancer Awareness.  Both Xavier and my other son Christian shaved their heads, as did a number of Xavier’s fraternity brothers.  My husband Charles’ head was already shaved.  Gillian has a head of thick, curly hair.  We weren’t keen on having her shave her whole head, so she had the side of her head shaved.

Xavier head shaveXavierthe undercut

Chris and X head shavesammy head shaveGillian and her crazy hair

What does a cancer patient look like?  There are a number of cancer patients that appear sickly (pale, yellow, gaunt, etc).  But there are also many cancer patients that don’t look “sick”.  We look pretty good.  We aren’t gaunt (contrary to popular thought, most people gain weight on chemo, usually from the steroids given prior to the chemo drugs).  Someone who didn’t know us would have no idea what we were going through.  He or she wouldn’t know that we were going for radiation 5 days a week, or were receiving chemotherapy drugs once a week, once a month, or in some cases, everyday.  Or perhaps we were recovering from another surgery.  Many of our scars are in places that don’t show.  You can’t always see our fatigue or pain.  I know that in my case, I try to do as much as I can.  I guess if I can still run errands, visit friends and family, go to lunch, take the kids to dance or Tae Kwon Do (TKD) , I am not sick.  I am just another mom doing “mom” stuff.  Though I must admit, when I do sleep, I usually sleep late and when I run around doing errands, I tire very easily.  By 5 pm, sometimes earlier, I am done.  I just want to put my feet up, put an ice pack on my chest, and just “veg out”.   I am lucky that my son Christian drives because he has been a godsend.  He usually drives Gillian to dance and TKD.  (Unfortunately I won’t be able to do any TKD for a while.  As per Dr. W, I can use a stationary bike.  He doesn’t want me to do any exercises that will involve my chest muscles).

“How are you doing?”  How do I answer that question?  I usually say “OK” or “fine”.  I don’t think people want to hear, “Actually, I feel like shit today”, on those days that I feel especially crappy or “craptastic”, crappy and fantastic, as my niece Julia would say.  The “craptastic” days are usually chemo days and sometimes a day or two after.  I can usually tell my family and close friends how I really feel, but not my acquaintances.  There have been times when I’ve said, “I’m feeling like crap today,” and invariably the response is, “Well you look good!”  Every time I hear that response I think of Ricardo Montalban from “Fantasy Island” and I remember a line from a commercial?? where he said, “It’s better to look good than to feel good.”  It’s usually the reply that I give, though I can’t say I totally agree with that statement.  I’d like to look good AND feel good.  Why can’t I have both!  (I’ve been advised it was actually Billy Crystal on SNL.  See next post)

Yesterday was definitely a “craptastic” day.  First I saw Dr. W and he removed the fluid from my deflated breast.  I went home, tried to straighten up a bit and work on this post.  Unfortunately I couldn’t get the words to flow from my brain to my fingers! Charles and I then went to my chemo appointment.  I waited a bit, took care of some billing issues, waited a bit more, and the nurse finally called me into the exam room.  She took my vitals.  I actually lost about 4 pounds (woo hoo!), probably from the combination of no chemo for two weeks and the fact that I started juicing/ or drinking a healthy greenish smoothie for one meal a day.  (I usually juice beets, cucumbers, celery, kale, apple, lemon, and ginger and my smoothies have all of those ingredients plus unsweetened almond milk, flax seed, vanilla protein powder and/or vanilla yogurt.  I am drinking a smoothie as I type).  She didn’t realize that I was supposed to have chemo so she had to check with the doctor and make sure there was a space for me in the chemo area.  I waited…Dr. D finally came into the room and apologized for the delay.  He checked my lungs, my stitches, and said that I was starting cycle 5 (of 6 cycles of chemo).  I noted that I hadn’t finished all three weeks of cycle 4 because of the infection and surgery.  His response, “We don’t know how much chemo you actually need or if you need anymore chemo.  If you are a religious person, God doesn’t come down and tell us how much chemo you should be given.  You had a local recurrence.  No tests have shown cancer anywhere else.  This is cycle 5.”  That was cool with me.  I was afraid chemo was going to last through the whole summer at the rate I was going.

I make my way back to the chemo area and find my husband waiting for me in a cubicle with a nice sandwich.  I grabbed a few Honey Maid graham crackers and a ginger ale from the snack area (these are  my usual chemo staples).  I sat in the recliner, and I waited and ate half of my sandwich.  Nurse G came in with a new hire and started to access my port (sticking the big needle in).  As I mentioned in previous posts, it is usually quite a process to get blood return from my port.  As I was telling Nurse G the story of my surgery and explaining to the new nurse the  problems with my finicky port, Nurse G accessed my port and shock of shocks, she got blood!!!!! No lying down, turning my head, coughing a lot, or having a 7 minute saline flush going through my port to get blood return.  I guess all I have to do is excitedly tell a story! I’ll try that next week.

I didn’t have to wait for my blood counts to come back since I hadn’t had chemo in a few weeks so Nurse G hooked up the IV with the Kytril (anti-nausea medication) and the steroid.  When that bag was finished, she came back with another nurse and my bag of Taxotere.  “What’s your name?  What’s your date of birth?”  The Taxotere bag was hooked up and was supposed to run for an hour.  About 20 minutes in, I was eating a graham cracker and I had to stop, my throat felt weird and I started getting real itchy on my upper body and head.  Off went the Taxotere bag and on went the Benadryl.  I got real woozy and I passed out for a little while.  Then I started getting tingling in my lower legs and feet.  Off went my light purple Converse All Stars and off went my socks.  The itchiness went away though!  When the Benadryl bag finished, the saline bag was started.  When the saline bag finished, back went the Taxotere bag.  However, the remainder of the Taxotere was run through the IV at a slower rate than before.  I didn’t have another allergic reaction.  When the Taxotere back finished, Nurse G came back and removed the needle from my port, slapped on some gauze and tape and Charles and I headed home.

Before all the itchiness started, I was working on my iPad trying to finish this post.  I don’t know what I was doing wrong, but when the keypad came up on the iPad, I wasn’t able to type anything.  If anyone can give me pointers on how to edit a blog with an iPad, I’m open to suggestions.  Charles was using my laptop to watch a movie, Crank 2.  He was laughing so hard that I wasn’t going to ask for my laptop just so I could work on my blog.

I don’t know if it was the after effects of the Benadryl but I was pooped when we got home.  I brought our dog CJ outside in the front yard and lay down on the hammock on our front porch.  I couldn’t sleep though because my legs were still all tingly and I was nauseous!   I was exhausted and I couldn’t sleep.  Argh! Damn steroids and damn Benadryl and damn damn nausea. I took my Zofran and Compazine but they didn’t really help.   I was up most of the night as well.  I tried to sleep but couldn’t.  I went downstairs around 1 am and ate some toast and crackers.  I had a cup of tea.  I read some “Sookie Stackhouse” on my iPad.  I went back upstairs to bed.  I tossed and turned.  I finally gave up trying to sleep at round 4 am.  I went downstairs and had some mango sorbet.  I should have tried that earlier.  It actually calmed my stomach.  (Either that or the anti-nausea drugs finally kicked in).  I read more “Sookie Stackhouse” on my phone.  Around 5:15 am, Charles, Christian and Gillian came downstairs.  The kids got ready for school.  I fell asleep on the couch around 6:30 and woke up to a veggie omelet from Charles at about 9:30 am.  There was to be no more sleep after that.  An 11:30 am appointment with Dr. F (my regular surgeon).  I told him about my blog and about the woman who thought I shaved my head as a fashion statement, and what did he say, “Well..you really do look good! Some women shave their heads as a fashion statement.  You look good bald and unlike me, your hair will grow back.”

Dr. F made me feel so good that I took my bandanna off and spent the rest of today running errands bald (wearing long earrings of course).   I had to stop at the bank.  I had a 1 pm appointment with the acupuncturist (I’m not sure if it is working yet, but I have only been to her around 8 times and my sinuses seem better).  I then went to return some cans and plastic bottles, got gas for my car, and stopped at Kohls to get a juicing blender.  I got home and made a smoothie  (realized that the new blender had a crack in it), brought the dog outside, sat on the porch and started typing until the mosquitoes started attacking.  I am now inside on my recliner,with my feet up, finishing up this post.  I am done.  Exhaustion has set in……….But I look good.

me and my hoodylong earrings, bald head

Xavier

Bye Bye Boobie.. (Warning..there are breasts in this post!)

On Tuesday I was supposed to get chemotherapy.  I was feeling really tired.  I arrived at my appointment and waited.  The nurse finally called me into an exam room and took my vitals.  My temperature was 101.5 degrees (F).  My temperature is usually 97.9 or low 98’s.  The doctor came in and said, “No chemo”.  I told him what had happened regarding the scar tearing open.  He examined my breast and felt the heat coming off of my skin.  He also recommended that I not get chemo the following week.  Dr. D was pretty certain that I would be getting the expander removed and he figured that I would need time to heal and get over the infection.

I called the Plastic Surgeon‘s (Dr. W) office upon leaving the oncologist. His receptionist said she would call him and get back to me.  About 20 minutes later she called back & stated that the surgeon stated that I should continue with the antibiotics and continue to keep track of my temperature.  If the wound started oozing, or pus started coming out, if my skin got redder, or if my temperature spiked I should call the doctor on his cell phone.

I headed home and vegged out on my couch.  I continued with the antibiotics (Keflex) and Tylenol with codeine.  My temperature started to go down (probably from the tylenol).  I also put an icepack on my breast area to cool down the skin.

Later my temperature went up again.  I called Dr. W and he recommended that I give it another night to see if the antibiotics would do the trick.  I agreed.  I really did not want to have another surgery.

The next morning, my temperature seemed normal.  I spoke to Dr. W and let him know.  I said I would call back if anything changed.  During the day, my temperature rose slightly to 100 degrees.  I took more Tylenol and took a nap.  At around 4 pm, after waking from my nap, I took  my temperature and it was 101.9 degrees.  My skin felt hotter.  I called the doctor again and told him.    The Dr. W said that he could do the surgery that night if necessary or we could try to wait another day to see if the antibiotics would kick in.  At this point I was extremely upset and frustrated.  I knew that the next day would not be a good day for surgery because my son had a bunch of doctor’s appointments scheduled (in order to complete the physical he needed for college) and my husband would be busy taking him.  Dr. W told me to let him know by 6 pm if I wanted the surgery that night.

I texted my oncologist in NYC, Dr. G with an update and he said that he would call the plastic surgeon.

I was going crazy waiting for my husband to come home.  I think I took my temperature every 5 minutes.  I took a tylenol but my temperature only went down slightly.

I called my mom to see if she would be available the following day.  If I had surgery that night or the following day, my husband could still take my son to his appointments.

I ended up opting for the surgery that night.  My skin was getting hotter.  My fever wasn’t breaking.  I was anxious and frustrated and on the verge of breaking down.  I didn’t want to keep waiting for fear that my vanity (not wanting to have only one breast), would cause me to get even sicker.

I called Dr. W and asked him if my oncologist spoke with him.  Dr. W told me that the oncologist wanted him to be aware that I had chemo last week and to be aware of my blood counts.  I asked if the oncologist recommended surgery and was told that the oncologist isn’t the one who recommends these things.  I was on the verge of tears and told Dr. W that I wanted to do the surgery that night.  He told me to head to the Emergency Room (ER) at 6:30 pm and that he would be there around 7 pm.  They would know I was coming.   He also had to call for operating room staff.  (“Same day surgery” would be gone for the day, so on-call people would have to be called in).

I was still really upset.  Charles advised me to take a shower and start getting ready to head to the hospital.  It was after 5:30 at this point.

At 6:30 pm, Charles and I arrived at the ER.  We went to the check-in window and got me checked in.  They knew I was coming.

(On a side note:  the woman at the window, who was clearly younger than me, called me “sweetie” a number of times.  It really annoyed the shit out of both me and my husband.  I know I was on the verge of tears because  I was overwhelmed, but don’t patronize me.  I am not your “sweetie”.  My name is Maria.  I would have said something to her, but I was too upset and I didn’t want to come over sounding like a bitch.  I know Charles bit his tongue).

We were directed to cubicle #9 in the ER.  A couple nurses came in and took my vitals, while another asked questions, whose answers went into the computer.  My temperature was a little bit lower but I had taken Tylenol about an hour or so earlier.  I was given a gown to change into.  They asked me when I last ate (a couple hours earlier) so I could only get local anesthesia.  They stated that Dr. W was due in at 7 pm, but I would have to see the ER doctor first, as Dr. W sent me to the ER.  Charles looked at me and shook his head.  Just more money to bill the insurance company for.  A real “cover your ass” move.  I clearly had a doctor who would be at the hospital shortly to examine me, but  I had to be seen by the ER doctor as well (so he wouldn’t be sued if something went wrong??!!!) I blame this insanity on this litigious society.  Now all doctors must cover their asses at our expense!!!!  The nurses were pretty cool though.  They told me that Dr. W had sent over some orders (blood count etc) that would get done.

The ER doctor came into cubicle #9 to examine me.  “Oh you have a fever?”.  “Yes”.  “Let me check your lungs”.  (They were clear.  No wheezing.  I had been coughing.  A dry cough.  This is how my asthma usually presents itself).  “Well..we are going to do some blood tests, blood cultures,  a chest X-ray..”.  Charles jumps in, “No chest X-ray. That is not necessary.  She is not wheezing.  She’s had enough X-rays, and tests.  She is here to get her expander removed”.  The doctor, “Well, we have to rule out the cause of the infection.”  Charles, “You can see the cause of the infection.  Her breast is bright red”.  The doctor, “Oh it’s just a small dose of radiation.”  Charles, “She’s had more than enough radiation.”  The doctor leaves the cubicle.  Charles goes off.  “They want to do all these unnecessary tests on you.  You don’t need more radiation. You are here to get the expander out.  He can’t see that your breast looks like an eggplant?” (it wasn’t quite that bad)…..”And what was with  that girl calling you “sweetie”.  Did anyone ever teach her manners?  She should have called you Maria, or ma’am, or by your last name, not sweetie.”

Not quite an eggplant!

Not quite an eggplant!

Thank God Dr. W arrived shortly thereafter to stop the insanity.  He took one look at my breast and all he said was “OK”.  He left the cubicle to see if the Operating Room was ready.  He came back and I heard him ask the ER staff about the orders he had sent over.  Someone responded that I was to get a chest X-ray, etc.  Dr. W’s response, “No.  I just want a complete blood count“.  If the surgery doesn’t do the trick, we will worry about everything else later.”  Charles just looked at me and nodded, “See.  I told you that you didn’t need all that other stuff “Dr. Doolittle” wanted to do. He’s just some guy following a book.  Someone comes in with a fever, do this, this, and this.  We know what your problem is.”  When Dr. W came back in, I asked if my breast was red enough.  His response, “It’s definitely red.  Redder than it was on Monday.  If you were my child, I would have tried to wait it out but you are my patient.” As he was leaving the cubicle, Charles stated, “You look good.”  Dr. W was wearing jeans and a blue T-shirt (Adidas I think).  Dr. W made a funny face & left cubicle #9 to get dressed for surgery. I remarked, “Well he is a plastic surgeon.  If he looked bad, I couldn’t see him getting much work!’ Charles and I were able to laugh.  Definitely broke the tension.

Another nurse entered cubicle #9 and he took my vitals.  My temperature was starting to climb again.  He also asked more questions and seemed surprised that this bald woman beside him had a living will and advanced directives.  The phlebotomist came in and took my blood.  The nurse told me to take off the rest of my clothing.  I had been sitting there in the lovely hospital gown and my yoga pants and mint green Converse All-Stars.  I disrobed but left my underwear on.  (Hey..I was cold).  Then I waited…………..

The plastic surgeon came in and told me that everything was just about ready in the ER.  I waited a little longer and ran to to bathroom.  ..In my gown and underwear!  Shortly thereafter I was wheeled into the ER.  It was bizarre.  I have been wheeled into another ER in the past fully alert & I didn’t like it..at all.  Probably the anxiety of it all.  This time I was wheeled in alert and I would be staying alert for the duration of the surgery. I was surprised.  I wasn’t even getting a sedative.  The nurse seem surprised that there was no IV in my arm.  I was surprised as well.

I was hooked up to all of the monitors.  Something cold was put on my left thigh.   My arms were lightly strapped down so I couldn’t move them (which made it very difficult to pop my ears).  But I didn’t panic. The area around my breast was prepped.  Orange colored stuff was painted all over my breast, towels were placed all around my breast.  And Dr. W put some down my side.  He specifically stated that he was doing this because my drawers got saturated on Sunday when he had irrigated my ripped open scar. My response, “Damn..I knew there was a reason I should have taken off my underwear.  I forgot about that!”  Another sterile pad was placed around the area and then the nurse put a drape up.  My comment, “Crap.  Now I can’t watch!”  She replied, “You want to watch?  You are one strong woman.”  I heard that a number of times during the course of the surgery.  I hadn’t expected the drape.   The plastic surgeon or one of the nurses (Mary or Theresa)  told me everything as he went along.  “Your going to feel a little pain.  Stinging.  I am giving you the anesthetic.”  It definitely stung.  I could hear and slightly feel it as Dr. W snipped open the nice neat stitches  (or sutures) he had put in a few days earlier.  He told the nurse that he had stitched me up on Sunday & his whole back story prior to coming to the ER that night.  “You are going to feel some tugging.  The doctor is taking out the expander.”  I felt a lot of tugging and pulling and stretching of my skin. I definitely cursed a few times.   I could see their silhouettes behind the drapes.  I started humming “Me and Bobby McGee”, my favorite Karaoke song, while they worked.  The nurse said I had a nice voice and should sing for them.  I continued humming and asked if they could put some music on.  One of the nurses put an oldies station on.  We started discussing music.  Fluid was suctioned out of the breast area.  Apparently some cloudy fluid had collected in the area below my armpit.  (I had been experiencing pain and swelling in that area).  Dr. W stated that the fluid was to be sent to the lab for a culture because the oncologist would want to know what was causing the infection.  There was no pus.  Dr. W and the nurses remarked at how lovely a breast pocket I had.  (Dr. W had made the pocket previously).  It was pretty funny listening to the banter in the OR and being able to chime in.  They started irrigating the opening in my breast.  It was chilly.  I am happy to report that my underwear did not get wet.  Good job Dr. W and nurses.  Dr. W then began to put the drain in.   Another prick on his end and quite a few “Holy shits” on my end and the drain was completed.  Dr. W began stitching me up.  Then I was all taped up and the surgery was over.  “You are such a brave and strong woman.”  Thank you Nurse  Theresa and nurse Mary.

I was transferred to a bed and was able to sit up a bit.  It was nice not being wheeled into the recovery room and having nurses constantly call my name to try to wake me up nor did I have to hear all the beeping of monitors, when all I want to do is sleep.  I was not nauseous and did not vomit, which is one of  my side effects of general anesthesia.  (The only time I didn’t totally loathe general anesthesia was when I had my double mastectomy.  As I was being admitted to the hospital for a few days, I was allowed to sleep.  I have no memory of the recovery room.  I woke up in my hospital room).

Dr. W left to give Charles an update.  Nurse Mary completed paperwork, while Nurse Theresa counted supplies.  While the nurses finished their paperwork, Dr. W wheeled me into the hallway so that Charles could see me.  The expander was wrapped up in a towel and given to Charles as a gift.  I love his sense of humor.  (There was no one in the area as the Same Day Surgery staff was all gone).  We sat there while Dr. W finished paperwork and we all talked.  Dr. W warned that my fever might spike that night so I should be aware but it would probably be normal in the morning.  I asked if I would need IV antibiotics.  Dr. W stated that we should know tomorrow if my fever doesn’t break.  We then talked about the state of medicine.  About electronic medical files and how the government is asking for more and more information about people in the files.  And how much tougher it is getting to practice medicine.  The costs of schooling is going way up and the pay is going way down.  Etc..  (In a previous blog I wrote about my issue with NYU.  One of the reasons the appointments were running so late was the new computer system that had just been installed.  When I got into the exam room, the nurse basically asked for my whole medical history and entered it into the computer).   Dr. W wrote out orders for the floor nurses and when the ER nurses were finished with their paperwork, they wheeled me up to the 4th floor.  Room 4o1.  On the way, I asked if the nurses were getting paid overtime.  They were “on call”, so they’d be getting paid.

Room #401.  I wasn’t there very long. Maybe 35-40 minutes.  A nursing assistant took my temperature and my blood pressure and a nurse came in to see how I was feeling.  My vitals were OK though my temperature was still a little high.  I was told that I’d  have to pee before I could leave.  I asked for some ginger ale and some water.  I drank a small can of ginger ale and a small pitcher of water.  I was also given some Tylenol with codeine as the pain was starting.  Charles was encouraging me to drink as quick as possible as he really wanted to get home as well.  I called the nurse in, said I had to pee, peed, got dressed.  The nurse emptied my drain and showed me how it works and how to empty it.  I walked over to a wheelchair.  The nursing assistant wheeled me down to the entrance of the hospital where Charles was waiting with the car and we drove home.  We arrived at the hospital at 6:30 pm and left at around 9:40 pm.  Not bad!

I took a look in the mirror.  It’s kind of weird having only one breast.  I know it’s a temporary situation and when chemo is done, I will try the expander route again.  Hopefully next time there will be no complications.  And if there are, we will figure something else out.

Dr. W called me the following morning.  My fever never spiked.  In fact, my fever was gone.  Less then 25 cc’s of reddish fluid had been collected in the bulb of the drain. I spent most of the day on the couch resting and on my hammock sleeping.  My mom and daughter spent the day taking care of me.

Dr. W’s office called this morning.  Still no fever.  Reddish fluid still collecting in the drain.  Hopefully the fever stays gone!  Still taking antibiotics.  I can’t really see the color of my skin because the area is covered in gauze and tape but the area above the tape seems alright and doesn’t seem hot.  I will continue to take it easy today and this weekend.  I see Dr. W on Monday, possibly to remove the drain.  (When I asked him earlier how long I would have the drain, his response, “When it stops draining”.  Wise ass!.  I asked about the results of the fluid culture but they aren’t in yet.

I know this is a long one and just kind of ends.  But my arms are getting tired from all of the typing.  I’ll catch up soon “Sweetie”.

Bye Bye

Bye Bye Boobie